Many of my grandchildren are being homeschooled at this time. I say “at this time” because the mix changes from year to year as babies grow up and become old enough for structured teaching via textbooks, worksheets, lesson plans, etc. and because a child who is homeschooled this year might have been in a preschool last year. Education is a dynamic, hands-on process, and parents who are on their game will adapt their children’s education for the good of the child and using the available resources, yet without sacrificing the continuity of the education.
A few weeks ago a friend commented something like, “Homeschooling is all well and good, but sooner or later those kids will need to come out and face reality.” I have heard this kind of thing before, but never from anyone who actively home-schooled their children. I wonder, though, what reality they have in mind.
Is it the reality of the teacher who told me that my daughters did not really need to study math or science, since girls were unlikely to need that knowledge?
Is it the reality of the high school teacher who did not know anything about trigonometry, but was teaching my daughter’s trig class anyway? Is it the reality of the teachers union protecting that teacher from reassignment without regard for the education of our children?
Is it the reality of certain parts of the public school campus being perpetually contaminated by marijuana smoke? The reality of bullies given protected status to bully others?
Don’t get me wrong. I am a product of public school education all the way from elementary school through post graduate work, and the educational system served me well. And my children were blessed with a large number of simply superb teachers in the Lutheran school and public schools they attended, notwithstanding the occasional issues mentioned above.
But other than the occasional incompetent teacher, self-serving teachers union, or pockets of bullying culture, what reality do they need to encounter that they are not already facing? From what I have seen, my grandkids receive an education tailored to their needs, learn at a pace that challenges rather than overwhelms or bores them, and maintain their curiosity, creativity, and interest for critical thinking all the while. But what about their supposed insulation from reality?
Their reality includes group excursions, field trips, and specialty classes with a couple dozen other home-schooled kids, exposing them to a range of personalities and levels of capability.
Their reality includes soccer teams, swimming lessons, horsemanship, and other kinds of enrichment, and some of these activities lead into league competition requiring teamwork, interpersonal skills, and leadership development.
Their reality includes community service, both formally (e.g., in local park districts) and informally (e.g., serving a shut-in neighbor or at church).
Their reality includes grocery shopping, visits to repair shops, trips to the library, trips to the parks, sight-seeing, and travel by car and by air, all of which are permeated with interactions with real people in real communities. Do they live a sheltered experience? No way!
A few weeks ago a friend commented something like, “Homeschooling is all well and good, but sooner or later those kids will need to come out and face reality.” I have heard this kind of thing before, and have heard it said of Christian schools, private schools, and the advanced placement programs and special needs programs in public schools. So what is the common denominator, other than maybe thinking that the grass is greener somewhere else? I am not sure, but rather than dwelling on the grumbling, let’s focus on the children.
Over the years a lot of my friends and co-workers have complained about their children, and our society as a whole often seems to see them as either a burden to be carried or as property to be managed. It is more important, and certainly more comforting, to see them as gifts that God gives to parents; gifts that God expects us to steward, protect, and nurture. We all fall short in this; none of us are perfect parents. Regardless, by the grace of God we do the best we can. I remember my parents teaching me about God, helping me learn the Lord’s prayer, and giving me the best education they could with the best available resources (time, treasure, and opportunities). We tried to do the same with our children, and now they are more than paying it forward with how they are raising our grandchildren. And homeschooling meeting reality is a big part of this.