A certain corrosive behavior has become more common and more obvious over the past few years – the energy and determination of people responding with smackdowns to those with whom they happen to disagree. For example, I might comment that I think the population of the US is about 340 million people, and someone claps back, “NO, it’s 345 million.” If we really want to know which number is correct, we can easily look up the answer. What is interesting, though, is the vigor with which the second person jumps in with a smackdown correction, as if to say, “You poor fool. I am your better, and I am here to set you straight.”
We see this over and over again in corporate news media, in politics, sometimes in religion, and in any number of topical areas in which condescension conveys more of a message than the information content. This behavior poisons conversations and public debate. Why do people put their relationships with friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, or even strangers at risk for such a small return on the effort? And what kind of return on the effort do they get? To feel superior for a moment or two? I’m not sure that people even realize why they are so compulsive about correcting others, or if they understand the neediness this “set you straight” behavior might reveal.
After thinking it over, I suspect that people who do repeated smackdown corrections seek some kind of validation of their virtue, or of their value. They might not understand Biblical views of righteousness or personal worth, but on some basic level they need fulfillment and affirmation. They thirst for others to see them as righteous, regardless of whether it comes at someone else’s expense.
Jesus spoke to this thirst, I think, in Luke 18:10-14, where He told this parable: “Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee, standing by himself, prayed thus: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other men, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I get.’ But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’ I tell you, this man went down to his house justified, rather than the other. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”
The Pharisee in this story reminds me of the condescending smackdown artists. Jesus warns that the day will come when such arrogance meets its reward, and it will not be pretty. On a happier note, Jesus points us to where our thirst for righteousness can find genuine relief: in the mercy of God our Father.
But how should we handle it when we are dealt a personal smackdown? Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Rather than meeting a smackdown with a response in kind, we should try for a more diplomatic reply, drawing upon God’s grace and sharing it with others.
Jesus said, “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied (Matthew 5:6).” By God’s grace rather than our own devices, it is in Him that we take our stand.































































