The Sadim Touch (https://wordpress.com/post/jesseyow.com/870) has been viewed more often than any other post on this blog, and by a large margin. That post mentioned, in passing, a person who shed dark on every question that came his way, and promised to save that story for later. Well, it is later, so let me share the story.
Many years ago I led a program at LLNL that reported to a DOE management team in Washington, D.C. The DOE management team and our LLNL technical team were both very capable, and we pretty much worked together as one. This was fortunate since we had many technical problems to solve, conflicting priorities to navigate, tight deadlines to meet, and limited resources. Many of us (including parents!) have worked through similar combinations of challenges, and success comes easier when we work together as one team.
The DOE team included a wonderful, down-to earth guy whom I will call Carl. (I can’t recall his name, so Carl is as good as any. If your name is Carl, rest assured that I do NOT have you in mind!) Carl was one of the most senior managers on the team. He probably owned at least a dozen “been there, done that” T-shirts; he was that experienced. And he was down-home kind of friendly, usually coming across like one of your favorite uncles. He really did bring a lot of years of perspective and useful history to the table. Unfortunately, he did not seem to be able to share it with us.
Someone with Carl’s experience should have been able to shed light on the questions we faced and the answers we considered. However, when we framed a question and turned to problem-solving, he would respond by reminiscing about some other question. More often than not, the question he recalled was only superficially related, if that. Or he would patiently tell us all the reasons why any proposed answer was a bad idea, or why it wouldn’t work. Even if he was speaking of something nobody brought up. Or he would change the subject while apparently thinking he was still on topic. Once in a while everything would align and his views actually helped. Most of the time, though, he shed dark on every question that came his way. A nice guy, but one that shed dark wherever he went. Sad.
They say we should learn from the examples life brings our way. Maybe the next time we offer someone help, we can try to be aware of whether we are shedding light or dark on the question. Would that our political elites were a little more self-aware when they try to “help.”


